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  • 27Oct

    Be More Organized

    One of the most tedious but most effective ways to improve memory skills is to get a handle on life. Whether it’s your mail that’s in shambles, your sock drawer a mess or your contacts all messed up, you can improve memory by remembering names, numbers, important dates – and of course where you left your keys if you are more organized.

    Give everything a home. If you want to improve memory where it comes to your belongings, designate a place for everything. It may sound hard at first, but once you have a system in place, it becomes a way of life and you wonder who you ever lived without it. Make duplicate keys in times of emergency and for all other times, designate a key holder near your front door so you can grab –and put back- the keys in the right place every time. Once you are used to doing this, this will be one less area you have to improve memory.

    If you need to improve memory to remember that name as far as paying bills and replying to correspondence is concerned, get a mailing sorting system so as soon as you bring in the mail, you can recycle, shred, file or ‘do’ as soon as possible. If you only have a few things in your ‘do’ or ‘action’ folder, you will not need to rely on improving your memory tactics to remember when the gas bill is due.

    Try Memory Games

    Whether its picture puzzles in books or simple objects in a tray, you can improve memory by practicing remembering what you see. Take a tray and ask someone to put ten different things in it. Study it for 30 seconds and then write down what you saw. Practice until you get a 100 per cent score. If you neither have the time nor the patience for such games for remembering names, pick up a magazine and then after looking at a picture, try to remember all the details you saw. How many people were there in the picture? What kind of shoes was the woman wearing? Was the car blue or black?

    Memorize Things

    If you are spiritually inclined, memorize favorite parts of your book of faith otherwise try more secular things like all the US states alphabetical, the wives of King Henry VIII, the films starring Al Pacino or any other thing which catches your fancy like lyrics to a song that you like. Anything that keeps your brain on memorizing mode can do wonders for improving memory

  • 25Oct

    Contrary to popular belief, procrastination does serve a purpose in your life. And that is why this is a lesson in procrastination which you will not want to miss. You may have been fighting procrastination for as long as you can remember. However instead of offering you a miraculous cure for procrastination, let’s take a step back from your present to better understand the presence of procrastination in your life.

    Like most people, you are often overstretched in areas of your life. Currently you are playing several different roles at any one time, e.g. roles of a productive employee, a filial child, an understanding partner, a caring parent, a helpful friend and many other more which you seek to do well and excel in. However, there are just too many roles for you to fit into at any one time.

    And in addition to that, you are obliged to adhering to the duties of every roles, their respective “shoulds” and “musts”. The truth is regardless how well you plan your time, you only have a limited time and energy every day. There is only this much of things you can seek to accomplish daily. However, most “procrastinators” fail to realize that.

    Instead, day after day, they try to accomplish all their tasks in one day. And when they fail, they beat themselves up and feel that they procrastinate in completing them.

    Any time management experts will tell you that attempting to do everything within a short period of time is suicidal.

    Unknown to many, we are all procrastinators in this modern world. Everything you do carry with it an opportunity cost. When you decide to invest your time and energy in playing a particular role well, you will be neglecting your other important life roles at the same time. And when you fail to meet those “shoulds” and “musts” which come along with those roles, you feel that you have not done enough.

    Thus, rather than constantly beating up yourself for not doing enough and hoping for a heaven-sent cure for procrastination, why not look into yourself and determine what you truly value in your life.

    By determining the priorities of the different roles in your life, you will better understand what you truly treasure. And it does make sense to allocate more time and energy in fulfilling those more important roles to your very best while giving less attention to other less crucial roles, isn’t it?

    That will eliminate the need for you to want to do everything within a short period of time and along with it the misconception of procrastination.

    This is a lesson in procrastination which took many people a long time to understand.

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  • 23Oct

    enjoy those quiet moments when all the children are sleeping or out of the house for a while. You should never feel guilty about enjoying those moments. They are usually rare moments and they don’t last long; but you need quiet time in order to refuel your spirit. If you never get time to yourself you may soon run low on energy and feel run down all the time.

    Kids can run on energy that leaves adults wondering where they got that energy from to begin with. Have you ever watched your child while they were playing or working on something in particular? They smile, laugh, and enjoy their time that they are busy.

    Kids have a positive attitude about almost everything because they are not stressed out nor are they aware of the stress of everyday life. That’s because you are dealing with all the stressful laugh and enjoy simple pleasures more during the day? You can and its’ easier than you think. Learn how you can feel uplifted through your child.

    The first thing to do is to relax; try some relaxation techniques. You can’t enjoy anything if you are tensed and stressed. Enjoy the day with your children by devoting your day to you and your children only.

    Here are some great ideas on feeling more relaxed and improving your well being through interacting with your child:-

    * Playtime is your time. Spend the day playing whatever your child wants to play. You will smile automatically and you won’t even realize it.

    * Play dress up. Sometimes dressing up with your child allows you both to pretend to be someone else.

    * Read a book. Reading to your child will also help your mind open up to new ideas and relieve stress. Just like a movie with a Hollywood ending can make you feel happy, so to can a book.

    * Allow your child to help you with your everyday chores. It can be fun to do something together.

    * Hugging allows your body to have a positive impact. You immediately start to feel loved, warm and happy just by hugging. Your child needs a hug just as much as you do. Enjoy your hugs.

    Kids can be fantastic at improving our self esteem – nothing is better than being told you are the best.

    From time to time life becomes so frantic that you may have to schedule playtime in with your child; but do whatever it takes in order to get that time. In order to find happiness with the rest of the world, you first need to be happy at home. Your children will also sense your happiness and it will send a positive attitude that they can pass on. Even though they are children, people still look into their eyes or feel their love through a hug. One happy child can make a dozen adults happy just by being around them. Continue reading »

  • 13Oct

    Life does not always give you want. And because of the lack of manifestations of their desires, many people felt empty and unhappy about life. Thus, if you want to stay happy in life, there is one thing you need to know and accomplish with ease, to love and appreciate yourself.

    If you look carefully in life, it is not the lack of those materialistic things in your life that makes it miserable.

    Indulging in materialistic items may seem as one of the ways to stay happy. However, you know that happiness obtained from those items is only temporary.

    True and genuine happiness arises from you working inside out, not outside in. Being happy is an inner feeling and it does make sense to work out the issue from the place called ’self’.

    Unhappiness usually stem out of your lack of self esteem and self appreciation. At home, your parents have taught you to appreciate others and be grateful to people who assisted you along the way. You are taught to say “Thank you” to others, present gift to others as a token of appreciation etc.

    However, have you been taught how to appreciate yourself? How to acknowledge your own success and give praises to you? Do you love yourself for who you are?

    To love is to accept. More often than not, we tend to choose what we want to accept about ourselves:
    Talents
    Strengths
    Ability…

    However, that is not love. Ask any parents or a couple deeply in love, they will tell you that they will accept their children or their spouse as who they are.

    Others like you for your strengths, well your loved ones love you for your weakness.

    To choose to only accept your strengths is definitely not one of the many ways to stay happy. No one can seek to be perfect in this world.

    And because of lack of self love and self appreciation, it resulted in you having to seek affirmations from others by indulging yourself in the role of the victim where you will do things to:
    Gain other people’s attention
    Gain others’ sympathy
    To affirm yourself that you are not capable or lovable…

    The truth is your improvement will be much faster and greater when you focus on your successes, your wins and the things you do right rather than overly concerning yourself with your past mistakes.

    Thus if you want to stay happy, stay in love with yourself!

    Invest 15-30 minutes every night and review the successes you accomplish in the day. I call it the “Appreciate Self Game”.

    And like all other games, this game also has its own set of rules:
    Write out at least 10 accomplishments for the day
    Do not repeat the accomplishments from the previous days. By not repeating your accomplishments, it forces you to be more aware of your different successes and winnings in the day.

    Self appreciation and self love is not something you want to eliminate from your life.

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  • 11Oct

    Most people have stereotypical images of hypnosis in their head. A tuxedo clad magician slowly swinging a pocket watch and chanting, “You’re getting sleepy, very sleepy.” Next of course, he’ll cause the subject to hop on one foot or cluck like a chicken. Hypnosis is merely a parlor game in most peoples’ minds.

    However, the truth is that hypnosis is truly a big help in peoples’ daily lives. It can assist people who want to trim down, it helps people stop smoking, it can help people be stronger in their personal relationships, and - moreover - it can be used to help people to achieve any goal that they decide to go for.

    Many people would like to experiment with self-hypnosis or hypnosis, but they’re held back by the fact that they aren’t sure they know how to do it correctly.

    Here is where free hypnosis scripts are quite useful. The scripts are created by professionals, based on years of research and experience. They are highly targeted to effect your brain and actions in the most efficient way that exists. By depending on them, you can be assured that you are not going astray in any way, and that you are only placing thoughts in your brain that are good in helping you to achieve your goals.

    A professional-grade free hypnosis script should contain pre-hypnosis talking to get your mind prepared and in a receptive place, and it should also include a final part of the script which brings you out of the hypnotic state in a relaxed, calm way.

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  • 11Oct

    Something that all of us want but does not come easily is happiness. Happiness is definitely that we may need to work on. We have to find ways to be able to learn happiness regardless of the things that happen in our lives. It really is something that we are able to do and able to do well. It is not necessary for us to worry about what other people may think because we only get a single chance to make the most of our lives and after all it is our life and not anyone else’s.

    The Ways

    There are several different methods that you can try in order to find happiness in life that you truly deserve. It will take quite a bit of work and time on your part, but you will be able to accomplish it and as soon as you see the changes in your disposition, then you will know that the effort is worth it and that you have made a good choice in the way your life has gone. Utilizing these methods or simply just considering them is important. You will have to make things work out for you so that you enjoy your life the way you should.

    1. As human beings, a life without happiness is really meaningless. For happiness to be truly felt, we have to set goals. Once we have established the goals we want in life, then we will know what we want and will then have to figure ways in which to achieve those goals. We will need ways to make the things we want happen for us so that we will have what we deserve. We should make our lives special to us so that we will be able to feel happiness of completing an achievement. When goals are set in our lives and we move towards accomplishing them, we will have the feeling of happiness as we will have a meaning and a goal to reach for.

    2. A second thing to be considered is that we need to live life for today. We need to ensure that we use our best intentions and that we make the days that we have worthwhile. We definitely have to also think of the future and that the choices we make are the right ones for our health and security, however we also need to have fun and enjoyment in our lives and need to ensure that we succeed in our goals.

    3. Another thing to do is to think about what things will make us lose our happiness. What are the factors or events in our life that would make us feel discontented with who we are and would cause us not to feel happy. These are items that we have to really stay away from. We should ensure that we are able to keep away the negative factors from our life, and that we are able to make the correct choices without putting risks on our happiness. It is essential that we continue to make things work out for us and that we are able to stay happy.

    4. The fourth thing we have to ensure is that we are healthy in order for us to have personal hapiness. We should remain in good health and that we should make the right health choices to that we can stay happy and healthy regardless of what we do. We need to eat the right way and consider the food choices we make for our body. We should refrain from making choices that will cause us to be unhealthy and sick. We have to remove the negative things that affect us so that we stay in good mental health so that we are both physically and mentally happy at the same time.

    5. The last thing we need you ensure is to keep the good feelings in our hearts and mind. We need to keep these feelings with us so that we are able to give it back to others when they need it. We should be pleasant and as much as possible try to be happy. The more pleasant we are will show to us that we will be able to stay happy and that we will be able to make others happy too. We should strive to make others happy and bring joy to them as this will give us a way to feel good about how we affect others. Do not let events take you down emotionally as we may unintentionally bring down others too. Continue reading »

  • 07Oct

    You probably know the myth of innovation as a sudden flash of insight that comes from nowhere. We read about that “aha” moment, or that light bulb turning on in the mind of some inventor or innovator, and this is true to an extent. Einstein really did get flashes of insight while shaving in the morning. However, he was of course working on the particular problems he had insight into, and he didn’t suddenly have ideas for new kitchen gadgets or movie plots.

    Einsteins innovations, in other words, no matter how “sudden” the original ideas were, came from past and present mental work. It is like a singer who works at his craft for ten years and then becomes an “overnight success.” Innovative people only have “sudden” new ideas because they have habitually worked and thought in certain ways for some time. If you want to become an innovative thinker, then, why not start cultivating those mental habits?

    Mental Habits Lead To Innovation

    Problems can be opportunities. “Problem” may have a negative connotations, such as being a hassle or stressful, but any problem can lead to an innovation that improves our lives. Not knowing the time lead to clocks small enough to put on our wrists. Nasty diseases lead to sanitary sewer systems. Start looking for opportunity in every problem. Even a mundane problem like not having enough storage space could lead to a new innovation. You may just build a plywood floor in the attic, but you could invent a new type of outdoor storage unit.

    Innovation begins with understanding the key elements. Metal, wood or glass are not key elements of a door to an innovator. A way to get in, a way to keep others out - these are key elements. Begin with these, and soon you’re imagining new ways to make a door. You could design a door that is opened by your voice (nice when your hands are full), or one that shuts and locks itself when anyone else approaches. Think of the key elements in things.

    Attitude helps innovation. The creative problem-solving technique of concept-combination involves combining two ideas to see what new idea or product results. The crucial point is that you assume there will be a useful new idea. Starting with that assumption, your mind will work overtime to produce something. A shoe and a CD have nothing to do with each other, but it took just a minute to imagine a CD player with headphones that only plays the music correctly if a jogger maintains his ideal pace. When you assume there is something there you’ll often find something.

    Playfulness helps innovation. A playful mind is a creative mind, and while high IQ doesn’t correlate with creativity, put it together with playfulness, and you have an Einstein. Remember, he imagined himself riding on a beam of light in order to arrive at his theory of relativity. Why not start playing with ideas and things, in your mind and in your surroundings. Innovation should be fun. Continue reading »

  • 05Oct

    Planets, Moon, Mercury When most of us think of astrology, we think about our natal sign and not much else. Do you know what some of the major influences are though, that define these Zodiac signs? First and foremost is the Sun. It is the center of all life and represents a person’s personality and spirit.

    More about understanding the horoscope.

    The Moon, on the other hand, gives us our Soul. The Moon is the ruling planet of the Zodiac sign Cancer. It is very much associated with the mother and with maternal instincts. In Chinese astrology, the Moon represents Yin, while the Sun represents Yang.

    Mercury rules over Gemini and Virgo. It is the planet of the mind and of communication. In other words, it is the planet of the idea and the means to communicate the idea. The planet Venus rules over Taurus and Libra. Venus is associated with characteristics and principles of harmony and beauty. It is of course, concerned with love. It is also concerned with the pleasure we derive from personal possessions.

    Mars is the ruling planet for the dynamic Aries, and to some astrologers, Scorpio, although modern astrologers now determine that Pluto is the ruler of Scorpio. Mars is the planet that is concerned with the things you want, and how you go about getting those things. Jupiter is associated with pleasure and enjoyment. It is the ruler of Sagittarius and is also associated with principles of growth, religion and higher education.

    Saturn is the ruling planet of Capricorn and is associated with principles such as reality and restrictions, boundaries and rules. Saturn was traditionally the ruler of Aquarius until the discovery of the planet Uranus. Neptune is the ruling planet of Pisces and is associated with deception, illusions, spirituality and psychic phenomena. The planet Pluto is the ruling planet of Scorpio and is associated with the concept of transformation.

    If you’re a Pisces, you probably have a lot of friends, as you have an accepting and malleable nature that makes it easy for other people to be around you. A Pisces is more likely to go with the flow rather than swim upstream to try to change people or their environment. They can be more emotional, rather than rational and analytical. They don’t thrive in highly disciplined environments. Nine-to-five jobs are anathema to the Pisces nature. They are drawn to situations where they can use their artistic gifts and their appreciation of art and nature. They love luxury and pleasure. They can think on their feet and an enjoy new situations and change. They are happiest in the fields of music, literature or art. Not that tough for steadfast.

    Who’s the ideal partner for the Pisces. Not the rugged, caveman type, for sure. A relationship with a Pisces will be meeting of the mind and spirit, less so than the body. Pisces are cerebral and not intensely sexual. The need to be courted gently. They are intensely loving and loyal and have a monogamous nature. Don’t abuse this rare creature.

    If you’re a Pisces, you may find yourself occasionally being walked over or taken advantage of because of your fluid nature. You may need to find ways to assert yourself that’s in harmony with your psyche. Because you tend to go with the flow and live in the moment, you might have a money-management style that can leave you short of funds at times. You may need to be stricter with yourself to ensure that doesn’t happen.

    This is just the beginning. The time for learn and understand astrology. Continue reading »

  • 04Oct

    visualization techniques
    These days there is a great deal of discussion and speculation over positive affirmations as we see people really getting into things such as quantum physics as more and more of us really are looking for ways that we can readily and effectively make positive changes to our lives.

    In discussing about the unconscious mind we know that it has no logic or reason. The subconscious mind will believe that a learned behavior is a positive thing, no matter how bad for us that habit may be.

    mind power
    In looking more and more in detail at the goal setting we can talk about the subconscious mind and how it is governed by many rules. It really makes sense for us to learn about the rules of the law of attraction and subconscious mind in order to allow us to make the best use out of our subconscious minds with the least effort.

    We all know about goal setting and how paying real attention to this can have a marked change and positive effect in our lives. In line
    with this we really have to get down to the deep understanding of our subconscious and know that our subconscious minds is helpful as far as it is concerned and sees the reasons it provides for avoiding the change as valid.

    applying the law of attraction
    The the science of getting rich takes in everything we learn and experience in our lifetime. It is this programming that serves to actually develop our habit patterns and the thing that we need to do is to literally reprogram our subconscious minds in order to get different outcomes in our lives.

    It is those of us who really are determined to learn more about quantum physics as we look to be do and have all that we want to be. Going to seminars, reading books and getting a law of attraction coach are some of the many things and methods that we can use to really ramp things up and take our lives forward to higher level and new pastures. There really is good reasoning as to why we see goal setting becoming more and more relevant in the times we find ourselves living in as more and more people are looking at religion and spirituality in different ways and looking for the smoothest way of tapping into the universal intelligence in order to make success a natural part of life.
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  • 30Sep

    If you’re looking for a form of relaxation that will also help you to center your thoughts and improve your outlook on life, you may want to consider learning how to meditate. This is not an extremely difficult process, but does require dedication, and you’re able to see the results rather quickly. Here are some tips on what to do when you meditate, as well as some more details on the benefits of this practice.

    When you begin to meditate, you are able to concentrate on happy or positive thoughts, and your body and mind become less stressed. Most instructors will also advise that you focus on your breathing so that your breath will become rhythmic and relaxing as well. Then, you should focus on moving your mind from negative to positive thoughts, and you should seek to understand why you are feeling stressed or frustrated. This will help you to understand your own feelings and thought process, and will help you to find ways to reduce your anxiety the next time you are in a similar situation.

    You should choose a quiet place in your home or in nature that you know you can go to often without being disturbed when you are ready to meditate. This will make it much easier for you to achieve the feeling of calm that you’re searching for. You can also bring along a book of your choice, filled with advice on how to live the best life possible. Some people also keep a meditation journal, so that the techniques practiced and breakthroughs that are achieved can be recorded and repeated.

    When you meditate, it is important to focus on the fact that you are trying to achieve complete happiness that has nothing to do with external circumstances. Most people base their happiness on whether or not things are going well at work or home, and as you meditate, you will find the ability to achieve balance and joy in your own mind regardless of what it happening around you. Buddhism, which is one of the ‘religions’ that created the methods of meditation we use today, teaches its followers that eventually possessions of the world, as well as friends and loved ones, will fade away. The world is constantly changing, and as we all know, we don’t always get what we want. But those who meditate are able to continue achieving peace and happiness, because they are dependant upon their own minds for clarity and positivity.

    Want to learn more about how to meditate? You can check out sites like www.how-to-meditate.com for detailed instructions on how to center your mind and get rid of stressful feelings. You can also check out www.pickthebrain.com to read informative blog entries that will teach you more about meditation. Continue reading »

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